Coping Skills for Anger in Women

In a society that dismisses anger in men as usual and anger in women as undesirable, it can be challenging to assume there are any healthy coping skills for anger other than suppression.

However, anger, like other emotions, is a symptom of a problem. Anger floods the body with hormones that can make it challenging to find the source of the problem. By developing healthy coping skills for anger, you can identify solutions that go a long way in preventing anger from happening in the first place.

Anger in Women: Start with Self-Awareness

Self-awareness is challenging in the heat of anger, but noticing your anger will be the quickest way to resolve it. Take a moment to take some slow, deep breaths, slow your heart rate, and get some oxygen to your brain before you become overwhelmed physically and mentally by anger.

Focus on Facts

Anger can start with one thing and spiral to many other things. When you are angry, it is important to focus on objective facts. It can be difficult to bring facts to an emotional fight, but it’s better for you to do it yourself rather than have others point it out to you. If you can write out the facts of the situation that triggered your anger, you might be able to find solutions.

Sometimes, you are angry because of your environment. If you are too hot, or too cold, if your clothes are uncomfortable or the music is too loud, you might feel anger starting to rise. Are you tired? It might be time to take a break.

Are you hungry? Get a snack (ideally some fruit or protein). Do you know what stage of your cycle you are in? The ebb and flow of hormones does have an impact on your mood. Using a cycle-tracking app is a helpful way to notice patterns in your moods, even anger.

Anger in Women: Express the Emotions

In the busyness of life, you may feel that it is hard to process all your emotions, including the little things that make you angry every day. This builds up into resentment that may unleash itself at inopportune moments. When you take time to express your feelings, it provides a more immediate release.

• Have a good cry about it.
• Dance, run, ride a bike, get the heart rate up for good reasons.
• Talk it out with a friend, in prayer, journal.
• Find a private place to scream.

Balance and Boundaries

Women spend much of their days taking care of other people. They manage houses, jobs, and families, which can lead to pent-up emotions and overstimulation. Create some time for yourself in your schedule, and speaking of the schedule, learn to say no. Life does not need to be packed to the gills every day. You are a human being, not a human “doing”, so take time to just be.

Meet up with friends for something fun, work on a hobby for fun, take a class, or join a book club. Create space for silence and rest. Spend time outside, take a relaxing bath or shower, and do all the skincare. Take a nap on the weekend.

Counseling Can Help With Anger in Women

If you are struggling with unresolved anger, talking to a counselor in Frisco, Texas can help. Call our office today to set up an appointment with one of the faith-based counselors at Frisco Christian Counseling in Frisco, Texas.