When it comes to determining whether you have anger issues, the first thing to remember is that context is king. Like all emotions, anger can only be thought of as neutral if it is divorced from any specific context. Once it is placed into a specific situation, it naturally acquires a moral aspect.
Bearing that in mind, here are a few indicators that you may be experiencing sinful anger:
- Anger that creates legal problems.
- Anger that is uncontrolled.
- Anger that results in violence toward others.
- Anger that is inappropriate to the circumstances.
- Anger that is directed at an improper object.
- Anger that seeks to control others.
- Anger that is disproportionate to the cause.
- Anger that leads to aggression.
- Anger that leads to social problems.
- Anger that leads to self-harm.
- Anger that disrupts relationships.
If you find that you routinely experience sinful anger, you may have anger issues. Ask yourself the following questions:
- Do I struggle to enjoy life?
- Do I get angry quickly?
- Do I continually feel frustrated with myself or with others?
- When angry, do I frequently yell or argue?
- Does my anger drive up my blood pressure, result in rapid breathing, or cause me nausea?
- Do I find it hard to spend time with others?
If the answer to one or more of these questions is “yes,” then you may have anger issues. It is common for people with anger issues to feel helpless or ashamed of themselves. You may have been experiencing these issues for a long time and feel powerless to change, or you may write them off as being “just the way I am.”
However, it is never what we think of behavior that matters, but what God thinks of it. The same God who said to “be angry and do not sin” (Ephesians 4:26, ESV) also said a mere five verses later to “let all bitterness and wrath and anger . . . be put away from you . . .” (Ephesians 4:31, ESV).
If you are living a life that is characterized by sinful anger, then you have anger issues that need to be dealt with. The solution is not to minimize or deny but to repent and get help. Christian anger management at Frisco Christian Counseling in Texas can help you overcome this sin and get your life back on track.